An American volunteer teacher came to China to teach as assistant. She taught students English and they also told her something about this country. One day, the topic turned to saying “I Love You”, she was shocked to learn that not one of them had said this to their parents, nor had their father said it to their mother.
“Does your mother love you?”
“Sure!” they chorused. Maybe a bit offended that she had been asked.
“How do you know?” was her logical question. They said their moms cooked, washed, taught and always told them what they were wrong to show their caring. She was stunned. Some mums cooking, washing and criticizing read out as “I Love You.”
“But how do you show your love to her?” she asked by natural. They agreed that getting high grades, got a good job and then marrying and having that precious grandchild, giving as much as material requisite as possible would be hoe they showed their love.
The teacher comes from a different culture place where most people would find that not expressive enough, so she repeated these queries in classes over time. Gradually, she began to get different responses. Some of them had exchanged those sentiments with their moms.
A hug love happened to a mother and daughter. The daughter is going to university for a long time. Her mother met her at the door and hugged. This had never happened before, but mother said “Now that you have gone I have time to myself and I watch TV more. I noticed that in some places mothers and children hug each other and I decided it was a good idea and that I would begin hugging you.”
This is also right for the lovers. Maybe they never say “I LOVE YOU” face to face to each other but through SMS, e-mail or some communication ways. Some of them say is so hard to do it and no necessary to do like that because they know it and put it into heart. Maybe they will show it by some indirectly ways such as cooking his or her favorite food, prepared some gifts that he or she want to buy for a long time, or give he or she a big surprise , even do something that is moved.
But a study showed that some people who say and receive these three words, which are “I LOVE YOU” is happier that that never do or less do. Study also showed that young women want to hear the magic words. They want romance in their lives. Since the women of today now look for that, the men who don't fight past their discomfort may find themselves out in the cold, maybe wondering why.
In my family we all say "I love you" a lot. While it is true that we often say the words without having a great depth of feeling at that moment, it is almost like a blessing we give each other. Recently, my husband must be away from us to work for a long time and I was glad that I always tell him that “I LOVE YOU”.
Those three little words carry a world of meaning, even when said as a greeting, but most especially if they are the last words we say to or hear from those we love. Show your love to your parents and lovers and let them know you love them at any place, any time. Don’t mean it.
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