The core hints:
Under the dual pressure of study, employment, parent and school first think greatly of be still the only sons and daughters' study result. Entirely ignore doing laundry, folding a quilt etc. sorting domestic affairs. Their ability to independently study and live is gradually deteriorated. How to train an independent kid? When the topic is issued, teacher, parent, student taking part in is numerous.
Parent's standpoint force a kid of independence.
In childhood, because the parents’ sons and daughters were so many and they were occupied in a work. Compelled under this situation, when at the primary school of grade 4-5 kids can take care of themselves. In fact, not those at that time the parents are cruel. Because subjected to various conditional restrictions at that time, just we are compelled to learn the ability of independent life.
Parents should the malicious, makes the kid do their own things they can do. Only so, the kid then can get away from mental dependence gradually, make good study, and take care of own life.
Changing the rules to habit.
Habit can form personality, the personality decides destiny. So, foster the kid's independent consciousness, the parent must change idea and change spoil to sign a rules. Combining kid’s reality and drew up the rule of developing physically and mentally to match a kid, made him understand which is right which is wrong, which affairs is needed to be independently finished, gradually trained a kid consciousness of independent existence, thinking. Parent insists unremittingly, urge a kid change independent consciousness to the good study and live habit.
The adult lets go the kid to begin.
The parent should have the principle of "the adult lets go, the kid begin" and lets the kid does some affairs of what lies in one's powers. In the home, parent can according to the kid's interest and ability through concrete and meticulous demonstration, starts to do from the nearby small matter, from easy to difficult, teach the technical ability. Such as study wipe a mouth, wipe nasal, wash hands, brush teeth, wash face, wear clothes, tidy up bed...etc..These like small matter, but actually created for kid good toughen opportunity, invisibly strengthened a kid’s ability to independently live. After the kid completes, the parents should give appropriate applause, this can to a large extent bolster the kid's self-confident heart.
The parent should train kid’s ability to think independently.
Everything that the kid can take part in, let the kids take part in, for example where should go in the weekend, let kid as a member equally participates. If that practicable to and then can adopt.
Train the kid’s quality to overcome difficulty.
The kid meets a difficulty very easily and is subjected to frustration then gives up, the parent should insist, encourage, help the kid at this time.
So I think, parents in good time can release hand will foster the kid's independence gradually, such as alone sleeping, cook a meal, do laundry, sweep floor. Give public recognition reward appropriately when the kid does these affairs; satisfy the kid’s “vanity", by encouraging forming the good habit of independent life.
Some parents worry that the kid suffers hardship and excessively shelters, even spoil again and again, this will make the kid be getting indulgent. Don't experience rains and winds, how can see rainbow? The kid sooner or later will independently live. And releases hand in good time, the kid will more and early and independently grow up, its personality will also firm and unyielding, personality will also perfect earlier.
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